dumped on my ass
Here is a great example of how the vulnerable single woman can be broad-sided in the dating world. I'm becoming much stronger and happier now, many months later. I've come to terms with being on my own and unattached ["alone", if you will]. I'm doing very well now. But it is still painful to read this letter from Mike - I really liked him. I still have no real idea what happened?
Date: Fri, 6 Aug 2004 17:18:03 -0700 (PDT)
From: Dee
Subject: dumped !!
To: Mel
Hey, Mel !! I have had quite a week.... got reprimanded pretty bad at work the other day, and was actually concerned I could get fired possibly! But I made amends and everything is fine. Just something I allowed to slip, but it will be okay.... and the kids are fine, and [my eldest daughter] is doing alot better... thank goodness. I am getting ready to register my two younger kids for school this week... but I need some time off work, like half a day... but now I'm hesitant to ask for the time off, after getting my butt chewed by the boss..... I'm laying low for awhile. ;-)
Well, another thing....... I told you about Mike!!! Well, the fucker dumped me the day after our Tuesday night date, and I thought we were fine, except that he seemed a little distant... but I thought it was just shyness. He was like that when he arrived to pick me up..... so Sher's and my theory is that the problem is "another woman"... As for our Tuesday night date, everything seemed to be pretty awesome... we got along great.... had fun, had good conversation, had some laughs...
Hmmm.... I attached his email below. So, whatever happened to "getting to know eachother" or maybe even "becoming friends", before burning up the sheets together?? True intimacy takes time to develop normally. And the guy was ALL OVER ME toward the end of our first date... kissing me, telling me I'm beautiful, etc... geez, what happened there... not sure, but he felt some attraction to me THAT night.
Well, needless to say, this was a disappointment, I had alot of hope that this guy would turn out to be pretty cool... he sure SEEMED to be, we really exchanged alot of correspondence, leading up to our first date.
Ahhh.. the exciting world of the single female. It's actually pretty interesting - never boring, that's for sure. I'm licking the wounds of my bruised ego... and tonight I'm driving down to Chicago again to see my friend Jay, and we're doing another moonlight bike ride downtown along the lake.... I can't wait. Then tomorrow I pick up my little daughter and get to spend the whole weekend busting my ass, cleaning the old townhouse I just moved out of. I have to be done by Sunday night..... *blech*.
Anyway, here's what Mike wrote... and NO WAY am I going to call him..... like, does he really think I'm going to chase him? I responded with an email, and pretty much said "goodbye".... BUH BYE. :-)
Anyway, here are Mike's *final words*... ;-P
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mike wrote:
Hey Dee,
Thanks for the note, and don't feel bad about last night. You didn't do anything wrong. I'm sure, based on this note, and your phone call on my way home, that you realize things didn't sit totally right with me last night. I don't know what it was either, but I guess I felt more of a friend vibe with you last night. I guess I didn't have the physical chemistry that I feel is so important. I'm not sure where this leaves us... you are a great girl, and I like you a lot, but I'm not sure it would work for us as lovers based on the way I feel. I hope you understand! Please feel free to give me a call tonight so we can talk about it if you like.
Mike
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Date: Sun, 8 Aug 2004 07:56:09 -0700 (PDT)
From: Mel
Subject: Re: dumped !!
To: Dee
Hey Dee,
Here's to the start of a new week, one in which you get rewarded at your job for your hard work and one in which men know what they want and are able to ask for it. Boy. You had a tough one last week, huh?
As far as Mike goes, good riddance. One more guy closer to the "good one" who I'm sure you'll meet eventually. Until then, continue to have fun with Jay and your other friends. You are single now and can do whatever you want to do. Have a blast!! Have you been spending a lot of time with your friend Sher who also lives in Milwaukee?
Hope you are enjoying your weekend. Take it easy and email me again when you can.
Love, Mel
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